Terrific Teens 21/02/09

Where Do I Draw The Line? by bro. Keat Lim

Dating & Boundaries:

Boundaries - What's the point of having boundaries if we ever do have? Move beyond dos and don'ts and ask why and the spirit behind the boundaries.

Dating -

1. Four areas to look: Social, Psychological, Sexual, Spirituality

2. Three levels: Important, Desirable, Irrelevant Things

3. Four stages: Friendship, Low-level dating, Serious dating, Engagement

4. Questions to ask ourselves:

• Do I have any concern?
• Are there things I make excuse for?
• Are there things I expect to change?
• Do I respect the other person (and vice versa)?
• Do I have the best friendship with them?
• Do it have a negative or positive effect on my life?
• Can I be contented with this person?
• Do I want to share my life with this person?
• Do my parents/friends support this relationship?

God knows what and who I need

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (TNIV)

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Terrific Teens 07/02/09

Love is… by Kiew Sieh Jin

The Three 4-Letter Words

LOVE

LUST

LIKE

LOVE

• to greatly admire
  
• to delight in
  
• to have affection for
  

"Love is more than sentimental feelings, romantic attraction or sexual intimacy. It is a purposeful commitment to care and share."

LUST

• to burn with passion
  
• to crave obsessively
  
• to selfishly desire
  

"Lust is unrestrained evil desires for selfish gratification. Lust conceives sin and sin always gives birth to death."

LIKE

• to be fond of
  
• to prefer or desire
  
• to be attracted to
  

"The ability to like is the Gift of Attraction. It is God-given. Its use or misuse is always directed by our will and choice. We can be attracted to various things."

Humans can be attracted to:

NON-LIVING THINGS

• Fashion
  
• Nature
• Object of arts
• Food

NON-HUMAN LIVING THINGS

• Animals (such as pet dog)
• Plants (as in gardening)

NON-PHYSICAL THINGS

• Sound (as in music)
  
• Entertainment (as in sports)
  

OTHER HUMAN BEINGS

• People of Same Sex
  
• People of Opposite Sex
  in terms of Physical Appearance & Personality Traits

LOVE -> LUST <- LIKE

SIMPLE INFATUATION

=    Crush or Puppy Love

=    Early Teens or younger

=    Targeted at older people - friends, teachers or    relatives…

=    Usually non-sexual

=    Very transitional

ROMANTIC INFATUATION

=    "Love at first sight"

=    Teens, Youths, and even adults

=    Attracted to Personality & Physical Traits

=    Last longer & go deeper

=    Often confused with Genuine Love

=    May progress to become Genuine Love

INFATUATION CAN BE POTENTIALLY HARMFUL & SINFUL

=    Displaces God's Lordship

=    Leads to Temptations

=    Disrupts Relationships

=    Causes Emotional Hurts

=    Affects Productivity

FIVE QUESTIONS IF YOU THINK YOU ARE IN LOVE

=    How long have you known each other?

=    What attracts you to him/her?

=    Why do you want to be with him/her? What's the ultimate goal?

=    How does your 'love' affect you spiritually?

=    What do close friends say?