Sunday, April 19, 2009

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Management Series: Anger by Dexter Ng

“If you cannot control your anger, you are as helpless as a city without walls, open to attack.”                    Proverbs 25:28(GN)


A. FOUR WAYS PEOPLE EXPRESS ANGER

The Maniac .
Example : Cain
Genesis 4:5,8 (GN)

  “Cain became furious and he scowled in anger… And while they were in the fields, Cain attacked his brother Abel, and killed him.”

            Genesis 4:5,8 (GN)


The Mute .
Example : Jeremiah
Jeremiah 15:17-18

“…I stayed by myself and was filled with anger.

Why do I keep on suffering? Why are my wounds incurable? Why won’t they heal?  Jeremiah 15:17-18


The Martyr .
Example :The Prodigal’s Brother
Luke 15:28 (NIV)

“…The older brother was so angry he would not go in. So, his father went out and pleaded with him…”        Luke 15:28 (NIV)


The Manipulator .
Example : The Pharisees
Luke 6:11

  “But they were furious and began to plot with each other what they might do to Jesus.”      Luke 6:11


B. HOW TO DEFUSE YOUR ANGER

1.Understand Why I Get Angry .

  “ A man’s wisdom gives him patience…”

  Proverbs 19:11(a)

3 Causes
Hurt
Frustration
Insecurity

2.Look To God Not Others For My Self-Worth .

  “ Don’t pay attention to what people say …”

        Ecclesiastes 7:21(NIV)

  “ Reverence for the Lord gives confidence and security to a man…”  Proverbs 14:28(GN)


3.Stop and Think Before Reacting .

  “ Sensible people always think before they act…”

  Proverbs 13:16(NIV)

  “ Intelligent people think before they speak…”

  Proverbs 16:23(GN)

  Ask myself:

Why am I angry?
What do I really want?
How can I best get it?

Fact : Anger is a Choice .

“… A wise man holds his temper in and cools it.”

  Proverbs 29:11(LB)


4.Learn To Relax .

  “ A relaxed attitude lengthens a man’s life…”

  Proverbs 14:30(LB)

Be aware of tension building up in your life
Learn some relaxation techniques
Develop a sense of humour

5.Continually Ask God For Help .

  “ The fruit of the spirit is love,joy,peace,patience…”

  Galatians 5:22(NIV)


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